8am, I sit at my desk and ready to take the day on! I have the perfect desk setup, that takes me to that ‘happy and calm’ place before dealing with whatever the day throws at me, perfectly orchestrated with my desk necessities. As I look around my desk, I see my pink roses for a touch of class, organised stationery for my low level OCD, career books stacked with hundreds of stories to inspire me and my favourite touch, a Wonder Woman card (from the BF) that says ‘YOU ARE MY WONDER WOMAN’ (super cute).
Throughout the day, I often find myself glancing particularly at this cartoon picture of Wonder Woman, looking like a warrior with her hands on her hips and ready to strike at any given moment- as if one day she will actually pop out of the card and give me some wonderful words of wisdom.
Although (in the eyes of my boyfriend) I am his Wonder Woman, I also realised that it is just (if not more) important to be my own Wonder Woman and through these series of glances at this fictional character, I felt a sense of empowerment, inspiration and self motivation that I can really ‘do this’!
So as it is International Women’s Day, I wanted to help you ladies release your inner Wonder Woman! Here are 7 Steps to Become Your Own Wonder Woman:
1) Be STRONG
If you feel as though you are in a rut, whether professionally or personally, then you might need to consider how you are going to get out of it. The hard truth is, there is no life SOS line that will help guide us onto the right pathway, but instead we have to use our own intuition and strength. Follow what you are passionate about and every time you get knocked down back into that rut, dust yourself off and keep on walking. You will eventually get to where you need to be.
2) Be RUTHLESS
Do you think Wonder Woman constantly worries and sweats the small stuff? No, and neither should you! If you constantly find that someone or something in your life is bringing more negativity than positivity, then you need to evaluate its real importance. Whether it's toxic people, bad habits or self doubt, you need to find a way to manage and keep the negativity out of your life. Stay strong and focus on the light in your life.
A little bit of criticism is good- it shows that we are reflecting and wanting to improve, but swamping yourself in too much is dangerous. I know this is easier said than done, but my true tip to confidence is loving yourself (even your flaws) because there is not another one of you. Learn to love what makes you unique and make time for things that make you feel good about yourself. But if all fails and you find yourself having to be confident in a situation that strikes the fear of God in you, then just fake the confidence and no one will be the wiser!
There is nothing wrong with a woman who knows what she wants! We might not always know the best route to get it, but we certainly know we want it! Just stay motivated, believe in yourself and your abilities and focus clearly on your own goals and aims in life. If you master this, you will definitely get there and win the battle!
Be OPEN and KIND
The great saying ‘treat those how you want to be treated’ could never be more true. If you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, being cynical and judgemental, then you will spiral into a very cold hearted world, filled with hate, self-pity and loneliness, which will hold you back in life. Instead have an open heart and mind and find the good in people, support and empower others and share kind and positive energy. If you do this, you will be sure to gain it in return.
We are told that showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness, but this is wrong. Opening yourself up to others and situations is the bravest thing that you can do as it proves that you are open to welcoming new things into your life. Putting your neck on the line may feel totally alien and daunting, whether its standing up for what you believe in, taking a chance or facing uncertainty, choosing to be brave in this way will say a lot more about your character and people will respect you for that.
You’ve completed that project. Finally cooked that meal you've been wanting to try. Bagged an offer on those jeans you’ve been dying for! However big or small the win, it should be celebrated! We focus far too much on what went wrong and what we could have done differently in situations and not nearly enough on what we have done right! So next time you feel on top of the world, embrace your achievement and celebrate it- you deserve it girl!